3 Things I've Learned about Myself in 3 Weeks of Homeschooling
I've officially been a homeschooling mom for three weeks. I'm definitely an expert now, which is why I thought I would start posting about my experiences. Just kidding. If you want to follow along with my homeschooling journey, do so at your own risk. But now that I've at least gotten my feet wet and have started to adjust to this new way of life, I have learned a few things about myself.
1. I am a planner.
My husband would be snickering at me if he knew that I was just finally realizing my deeply rooted need to plan things out.
I've always known that I like to plan and that I think planning is the only way to get things done properly, but I did not realize how much I need and depend on having things planned out.
When I met with my daughter's Home Learning Support Teacher (HLST) at the beginning of September and told her that I had already planned out how to get my curriculum done in the year and specifics for the month of September, she laughed and said that I was "probably not an unschooler." Which is funny, because that time of learning appeals to me! But, maybe it's my desire to "balance out" my neuroses.
In was in that moment that I realized how planning out my entire year of homeschooling was the only way that I could cope with the impending increase in responsibilities. Planning it all out, and seeing it all written down on paper, showed me that it is possible to accomplish what I need to accomplish.
Not everyone is like this, and that's totally cool. You won't understand how ridiculously organized I can be at times and I won't understand how you can get anything done by flying by the seat of your pants. That's what makes us all unique!
2. I think my kid is a genius.
Ok, not a genius. But now that I'm a mom, I do realize how much we can overestimate our children's strengths and overlook their weaknesses.
My daughter is not yet 5 years old and she can read very simple sentences (like "The cat sat on a mat"). Obviously I need to get her on a wait list for one of those genius schools. Or have her IQ tested.
While I've been super impressed and proud of Buttons and her new achievements, I need to keep myself in check. Be humble. Be realistic. Enjoy this stage and don't get too focused on her future.
3. I do have a limit.
Whoa--hold on. I'm not SUPERWOMAN?!
I knew I couldn't do everything, but I kept wondering where the limit was. I took on more and more and more responsibilities and was still be able to function at a high level.
But then I started homeschooling.
Even though it only takes up 2-3 hours of my day, it still takes up 2-3 hours of my day! That makes a big difference!
I've found it helpful to re-read this post and follow my own advice...
- Learn to say "no"
- Be okay with imperfect
- Take care of myself
- Establish my priorities
So I'm saying "no" to some things that have come up, I'm not getting down on myself for Ty coming home to a messy kitchen and sink full of dishes (which he lovingly washes), I am trying to make the time to read my bible and exercise, and I am embracing that the most important job I have is loving my kids.
Homeschooling has been a rewarding but patience-testing experience already. I know it will be challenging--but I also know that if this is God's plan for our family, then he'll give me what I need to do it well. My top priority is to lean into him and everything else will follow.