Fear of Failure


Fear of failure has held women back for far too long. We've based our worth on our ability to achieve perfection (and ultimately avoid failure of any kind) which has led us to lead lives void of risk, exploration, and adventure. We have in turn lessened our joy, undervalued God's faithfulness, and lived half lives. Fear of failure forces us to shy away from the ultimate plan God has for us. But here's the catch: Failure is inevitable. Perfection is unattainable.

β€œIt is impossible to live without failing at something, unless you live so cautiously that you might as well not have lived at all - in which case, you fail by default.” - J.K. Rowling

A fear of failure will hold you back in life...

To live, and make decisions, based on a fear of failure is to deny the power of God and choose a stagnant life. Without risk, there is no learning or growth. When we live in this type of fear, we stunt our growth spiritually, mentally, emotionally, and relationally.

"We pay a heavy price for our fear of failure. It is a powerful obstacle to growth. It assures the progressive narrowing of the personality and prevents exploration and experimentation. There is no learning without some difficulty and fumbling. If you want to keep on learning, you must keep on risking failure all your life." - John W. Gardner (emphasis mine)

Instead of risking failure, we trade it in for to risk loneliness, boredom, regret, and disappointment.

God loves us too much for that...

If you allow yourself to believe wholeheartedly that God loves you, then you must believe that your worth comes from Him and your approval is only for Him.

When we live our lives knowing and believing in our hearts that we are worthy and valued just because we are His, we start to lose the power that the fear of failure holds over us. We can take risks, step out of our comfort zones, and try new things in faith, knowing that whether we sink or swim, God loves us.

The approval and validation we often seek from others starts to lessen when we realize that our lives should be lived for an audience of one. Yes, we should live our lives as a shining light for others, but we don't live for other people's approval. Live according to the plan God has for you and let the opinions and judgement of others  roll off your back.

Let go of the fear of failure and rise up to God's vision for your life...

There is no greater way to live than to boldly follow God's next steps for your life. It'll be scary. It'll be uncomfortable. It'll be challenging. But it will also be GOOD.

A difficult decision does not equate to a bad decision, just as a difficult life does not equate to a bad life. When we choose to boldly follow Jesus, that's where our true lives begin.

 "If you cling to your life, you will lose it; but if you give up your life for me, you will find it." - Matthew 10:39 NLT

Nothing excites me more than seeing women live boldly and choose to faithfully live their calling. But the greatest enemy to that kind of life is fear. It's time to make a decision to choose FAITH, not fear.

Are you with me?