The Difference Between Entrepreneur & Mompreneur
I used to despise the term “mompreneur.” Seriously, whenever a mom who owned a business call herself a "mompreneur" I always rolled my eyes. Now a reformed eye-roller, I roll my eyes at how ridiculous I was! I thought it was an excuse not to get things done. I thought it was an excuse not to change out of your yoga pants from yesterday. I thought it was an excuse to live off of Kraft macaroni and cheese and eat Cheerios off of the floor.
Mompreneurs are amazing creatures.
While raising a business and their babies, mompreneurs are also making significant income on their own terms. They have literally built a business around their family’s needs and are living life on their own terms. Mompreneurs are showing their kids what it means to be strong, goal-oriented, and ambitious. Also, how to prioritize, snuggle, and play pretend with the best of them.
However, oftentimes one thing that mompreneurs send to the back-burner is self-care. While taking care of their business and babies, sometimes self-care turns into a luxury instead of a necessity. When in fact, it should be at the forefront of your priorities, even before your family or your business.
Think about the cup analogy that we’ve all heard:
You can’t pour from an empty cup.
It is a natural tendency for mompreneurs to take care of everyone else before we take care of ourselves. I’m fairly convinced that women are wired this way. We’re natural care-givers. But, think about it this way: if you’re feeling run down, unconnected to yourself, and/or frazzled, you’re not going to be the best version of yourself that you are able to be.
Simply put, you’re going to run out of steam.
Oftentimes, mompreneurs get overwhelmed with another thing on their plate. Self-care can seem daunting, but as a self-care business coach, I’m here to tell you it’s the integral missing piece for many of us and it’s an integral part of making your business a thriving success.
Quite simply, self-care makes you better. It makes you better at everything. It makes you a better listener, it makes you more confident, it helps you with mental clarity, it reconnects you to you. And when you are crystal clear on who you are, you are able to give more of yourself to the world.
So what is self-care?
Self-care is doing something that is for you and only you. It doesn’t serve anyone else but you. You want to do it because you want to do it. The motivator is internal.
An example of something that is not self-care: going on a date with your husband. Sure, dating your husband is great, but that serves your relationship, not you, as an individual. Another example of something that is not self-care: snuggling on the couch with your little one and watching his or her favorite movie. Again, this serves your relationship, not you as an individual.
An example of something that is self-care: making yourself a delicious smoothie everyday. You load your smoothie up with chia seeds, lots of delicious fruit, some almond milk, your favorite protein powder, some ice, and you blend the crap out of it until it becomes a frothy delicious concoction. You don’t share it, you don’t make it for anyone else. And this actually serves you two fold. First, it’s delicious! Who doesn’t love a good smoothie? Second, smoothies are amazingly healthy! Your smoothie also serves you in that it fills you up with tons of nutrition! Win-win, right?!
Another example of something that is self-care: reading personal development everyday. Personal development can do wonders for you as an individual. I know for many mompreneurs personal development can be daunting. And quite honestly, a lot of us don’t have time to read! Podcasts are a great alternative to reading as there are many influential people who have amazing podcasts and share super valuable content daily. I personally LOVE to listen to podcasts while I’m driving. It helps to relax me and keeps me company on long car rides or while I’m doing errands.
You need to fit self-care into your daily life. It doesn’t have to be anything complicated, the only qualification is that it needs to serve you. Reconnection to who you are at the root is incredibly important.
And Mama, you’re way too important to the world to not be fully you. As mompreneurs, developing a thriving self-care habit will help the world to be you, genuinely, wholeheartedly, you. You owe it to the world.
Allison Hardy helps mompreneurs raise their businesses and their babies through developing thriving self-care acts. She is the host of the Life by Design podcast where she interviews mompreneurs who are redefining the term “having it all.” To connect with her feel free to join her in her community, Self-Care Simplified. You can also find her on Facebook and Instagram.